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Menopause -- A reality, accept it and move ahead...

A woman's body is different and unique in terms of morphology, physiology, and biology. There are certain specific biological maturation stages from Pre-pubertal to Post menopausal phases which characterize the life of a woman leading to her sexual maturation. These stages cause a lot of anxiety, apprehensions and curiosities in her. But, most anxiety provoking, heartbreaking, distressing and agonizing is Peri menopausal / post menopausal stage as it indicates the end of reproducing capacity which defines the womanhood, gives her psychological satisfaction of being mother and wife. Somehow, menstruation is also wrongly linked with sexual capability and satisfaction, which is a myth. Most of the females take it as a signal to decline their sexual activities due to self imposed guilt, shame and embarrassment due to increasing age and grown up kids. Scientifically, there may be some loss of libido that too due to personal or psychological reasons, but, there is no decline in sexual functions after menopause and it totally depends upon the individual how she manages her sexual activities. There are many life style diseases and mental health problems which crop up during this phase causing distress. We all have to understand that menopause is not a disease, but can lead to many diseases, every women goes through it sooner or later...

The findings of the ISEC survey highlight that on an average nearly 4 percent of Indian women are already menopausal between the ages of 29-34 years. It goes up to 8 percent in the case of women between 35 and 39 years. This is shocking because normal menopause starts between the ages of 45 and 55, with a mean age of around 51 years worldwide. Early menopause also puts women at a higher risk of being affected with osteoporosis, heart diseases, diabetes, hypertension and breast cancer.

So during the time when children are in early adolescence and going through traumatic, upheaval due to hormonal changes, husband is busy climbing the ladder of success, they all are unaware of the transition a woman goes through, which is full of turmoil, chaos and very unsettling... Hormonal changes are creating havoc in her life too...

Suddenly husband find the wife to be distant, aversive to sex and irritable...

Kids find that mother is always "getting annoyed and shouting", but no one tries to understand what is going on....

Please ask her what is troubling her as hot flashes, sudden sweating, fatigue, irritable mood , weight gain are reality, and she is suffering...

Also she is burdened with traumatic thoughts about loosing her 'womanhood'. These are temporary symptoms and will go away...Just be with her ....She doesn't need your sympathy, she needs you to understand what she is going through....she needs you all....Be there...

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